In 2014, my husband and I celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary and also celebrated my parents’ 50th!
2015 started with a wedding. Our son was married in the Catholic church in January to a beautiful woman. It was an awesome sight to see the generations of grandparents, parents and children sharing in this beautiful and life-giving sacrament.
Weddings have changed over the years! My parents wedding was very simple. She had a maid of honor and he had a best man. Our wedding had a couple of more attendants, but was still simple. There were no engagement parties, dinners, registries, wedding planners…the list goes on and on.
The focus back then was on the sacrament.
As I watched my son’s bride being escorted down the aisle in the gorgeous St. John’s Cathedral; I realized that the very heart of the wedding for our family had not changed. The bride’s father escorted her up the center aisle towards her future husband, towards Our Lord and His altar. It was before Our Lord that these two young people took their wedding vows. They received the Lord’s blessing and were joined in Holy Matrimony.
My son and his wife expressed their gratitude to our Blessed Mother by presenting roses in front of her statue. I felt love and pride for the man my son had become and accepted a rose from him knowing my job was done. He was no longer only my son – he was now a husband. His job is now being the spiritual head of his family and that means making sure his wife and future children leave this world prepared to enter into God’s Kingdom.
On the morning of August 18, 1984, I walked into St. Peter’s Catholic Church and down the center aisle on the arm of my father, a single woman. I walked back down that center aisle and out of that church on the arm of my new husband. I had a new name and a new purpose in life.
That was 30 years ago today. Three kids and two grandkids later; I continue to marvel at the gift God gave me that day! It has taken me many years to see God’s Hand in my marriage; but I see it clearly now.
Our oldest son is preparing to marry in January. He and his fiancée had lunch with my husband and I over the weekend. They told us about their compatibility test as one of the marriage preparation duties. We laughed. I remarked that I think we would have flunked a compatibility test. My husband was quick to add that it seemed to him that we never agreed upon anything. It is true we are very different personalities; but, we are different in only that we complete each other. Where I am weak, my husband is strong; and where he is weak, I fill in. On matters that are really important, faith and family, we have always seen eye to eye. We each took our vows to heart before each other and before God. Raising our children was our number one priority for most of our married life. We have finished that job and move onto a new path in our journey together.
The journey has not been easy. There are many storms of life. I have learned that if a married couple humbles themselves and choose to have faith in God, they can weather these storms and become stronger because of them. My faith and my marriage have taught me that we must be accepting of God’s plan for our lives and be truly thankful for all our Blessings. We are all called to follow Jesus on the road to a Heavenly Jerusalem. I am very lucky that I was asked to bring along a very special man on my journey. We are not perfect, but we love each other and we love our Lord. Our most important task in life is to get each other and our children to Heaven.
Thank you Lord for the gift of my spouse. He has been a wonderful husband and father. I look forward to the next thirty years with this special man. We will continue to walk our path of life together, hoping to give You Glory forever. Amen.